The 7 Habits of Highly Stylish People

The 7 Habits of Highly Stylish People

As a Personal Stylist, the most rewarding part of my work is helping my clients to define their personal style.  Your style is ultimately defined by your personality, preferences, and flexibility – not by designer brand names, labels, and fad trends.

Now one thing about trends…can trends influence your style? Most certainly!  For instance, trends may help you consider a look that you've never even thought of before.  Or they may lead you to a signature piece that stands out in your closet.  But should trends define your style? Absolutely NOT.  You should never be a slave to fashion just for the sake of wearing certain brands or flashing logos everywhere.  You are the star of the show and your overall look is about YOU, not “who” you're wearing.

The following article from resonated with me and I wanted to share it with you.  It discusses The 7 Habits of Highly Stylish People and is a nice reminder of how to keep style centered around you.  I'd love to hear your thoughts about how you define YOUR personal style – be sure to comment below.  Enjoy!

The 7 Habits of Highly Stylish People

by Pierre Samotin (Source:

Here’s a fact: Anyone with a credit card can stroll into Barneys and emerge looking like Fashion with a capital F. But here’s another one: Very few people—credit cards or not—can be considered women of genuine style.

Yes, draping yourself in the coolest labels and piling on “It” items might give you a boost of instant sartorial gratification, but in six months those pieces will be obsolete, you’ll be out a month’s rent, and you’ll feel compelled to keep up with the cycle of buying the next round of coveted pieces. Exhausting! Still, so many women seem to be falling victim to that exact cycle.

Blame it on today’s street style-obsessed world, but all we have to do today is take a quick peek at Pinterest, give Instagram a quick scroll, or visit any one of the gazillion personal style blogs that exist, and we’ll be inundated with up-to-the-minute images of Céline, Proenza Schouler, Givenchy, Chanel, and other top-level labels, which can often create a bit of FOMO. And that, in turn, can result in scores of young women looking, well, exactly like everyone else and going broke in the process.

Then, however, there are those images you’ll see on blogs or street style sites of women who look so amazingly chic, cool, or interesting who aren’t covered in head-to-toe labels, but rather know how to take nondescript pieces and style them in such a way that their whole look is completely enviable and covetable.

These, friends, are the truly stylish women from whom we should aim to take our fashion inspiration. To that end, we’ve compiled the 7 habits of highly stylish people to get you started.

1. They don’t surf street style blogs and copy exactly what they see, label for label.
In this day and age, street style photos are a bona fide source of fashion inspiration. In fact, we spend a pretty hefty portion of our day stalking Pinterest and culling various galleries to offer our readers (and ourselves) great ideas when it comes to seasonal outfits.

However, just because you saw Taylor Tomasi HillMiroslava Duma, or Anya Zirhouva draped in KenzoChanel, or Célineor because you’ll be in New York during Fashion Week and want to get snapped by Phil Oh—isn’t a great reason to go out and splurge on the same stuff.

Don’t forget: Several big street-fashion players, editors, and bloggers get sent designer stuff for free to entice folks like us to go out and buy it. Others are, well, richer than us and it’s their day job to flit around the world in the latest designer clothes, which is fun to admire but not necessarily healthy to emulate.

That’s why truly stylish girls will see a look they’re drawn to and seek out lesser-priced pieces that have the same vibe. Plenty of affordable stores and sites offer items that feature similar aspects to designer pieces.

2. They aren’t afraid of any store—and can find something almost anywhere. 

Legitimately stylish women will troll any—and we mean any—store with zero snob factor, yet they manage to stay true to their aesthetic.

For example, she won’t be afraid to pop into a cheesy-seeming teen store at the mall, but that doesn’t mean she’ll leave with the same things her 12-year-old cousin would. Same goes for fast-fashion haunts like Forever 21, dusty old thrift stores, and off-price havens like TJ Maxx, Marshalls, and Century 21, which are consistently packed with great stuff at non-sucker prices.

3. They know how to style themselves according to their own taste.
Isn’t it always the case that the most stylish girls will say “This blouse? It’s from Goodwill, like, 100 years ago” and actually mean it?

Yeah, the blouse itself is probably pretty cool, but it’s really the way she styled it—maybe she tucked into great-fitting jeans, unbuttoned one extra button, rolled up the sleeves, and added a killer pair of statement earrings—that made everyone comment on it.

4. They always look a littles less “done” than everyone else. 
Highly stylish people are often in the habit of always appearing a teeny tiny bit too cool for every scenario they’re in.

This might mean wearing a pair of slip-on sneakers when every other girl is teetering on sky-high heels, wearing a chic skinny pantsuit when every other woman is rocking glittery party dresses, or chopping her hair into a messy bob when everyone else has long beachy waves. Small things that always make them look a little less “done.”

5. They understand labels don’t make them cooler. 
It sounds cliché, but the most stylish women—and men, for that matter—in the world are ones who have confidence, and who know they don’t need the $700 sweatshirt or $2,000 handbag to make themselves appear cool.

These folks can step out in a faded gray tee and jeans and still look like the coolest person in the room all because they have confidence (okay fine, and probably a killer haircut, too.)

6. They aren’t slaves to fashion.
Some of the most stylish people are able to have fun with fashion and follow trends without looking like a slave. If you don’t like a trend—even if every blogger under the sun is wearing it—don’t buy into it. It’s that simple.

7. They don’t dress to be considered stylish.
Before blogs, before street style, and before Fashion Week became a three-ring circus that only matters for those who have the most attention-grabbing clothing, young women dressed for themselves, their lifestyle, and what looked good on them.

Believe us: It doesn’t matter if those heels are Alexander Wang—if you can’t walk in them, you won’t be considered stylish. Throw on a pair of comfortable ankle boots with that mini dress, you’ll look much cooler.

Stylishly Yours,

Roxanne Carne

Roxanne Carne is a recognized Personal Stylist & Personal Shopper styling women in Dallas, TX and virtually!  Visit to discover how she can help you define your style!

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Back to Basics: Wardrobe Edition

Happy September!  Even though it's still warm outside, summer is drawing to a close and inside I'm screaming, “Noooo!!!”  I can tell the days are getting shorter & shorter and as I'm seeing kids go back to school, it's a real reminder that autumn will be here in no time.

I shared in my last blog post that right now, half of my wardrobe resides in Virginia and the rest of my wardrobe is here in Los Angeles.  As I scan through my L.A. closet, I see that I'm really missing some of my core wardrobe pieces.  Now I have to decide whether I should just replace the items I don't have at the moment (translation: shopping trip!) or wait a few weeks until I go back to VA and then bring some of my favorite pieces back with me.

So as I think about my core wardrobe pieces (or lack thereof in my L.A. closet) and the changing seasons, Back to School, etc., I thought this would be a great time to take you Back to Basics with your wardrobe.  That's right!  For you, I'm going to break down the key, core pieces that you should always have in your wardrobe.  You can never go wrong with pulling outfits together from these wardrobe items:

Blouses & Dress Shirts – Regardless of your personal style, you will always need a nice looking blouse or dress shirt to wear for work or special occasions.  I'm more a dress shirt gal myself – my favorite ones come from Brooks Brothers!

T-Shirts – This is a no-brainer as we all need to wear tee-shirts from time to time!  I actually prefer fitted tees because you can easily wear them under a collared shirt for a cutesy casual look and it's also less bulky to wear under light jackets.  Another item I'd like to throw in this category is tank tops.  These are great for lounging around the house and are great for layer under tops for a bit more warmth.

Cardigan – Each woman needs a solid colored cardigan!  Cardigans are so versatile – it can be a classic, finishing touch when paired with a nice blouse and skirts/pants; or, it can be a nice lightweight alternative to a jacket when you're dressed more casually.

Pencil Skirt – No wardrobe is complete without a pencil skirt! Pencil skirts are classic, have clean lines and very flattering on most body types!

Classic Suit – Let's face it ladies – you need to have at least one high quality, tailored suit in your arsenal of key pieces!  A dark colored suit in black or navy is always a winner because of it's versatility.  Even if you happen to work in a business casual environment, you should always have a power suit on the ready for any client-facing meetings, interviews, presentations, or conferences.

Dress Pants – A dressy pair of well-fitted pants is also a must have.  Coupled with a pretty blouse, shirt, cardigan or sweater, a nice pair of pants always sets the tone for sophistication and style.

Jeans – I don't know one person that doesn't own a pair of jeans.  In fact with so many types of jeans to choose from (such as skinny, bootleg, and boyfriend), you probably will have at least four to six pairs!  Well-fitted jeans with a pair of pumps or sandals is such a sexy, feminine look.

Jacket – A lightweight jacket is a staple in your wardrobe because it can be worn three out of the four seasons year after year.  You can rock a short moto, leather, or blazer jacket to keep you comfortable in the cooler months.  If you're like me, you carry one around in summer just in case you go into a well air-conditioned space – I am always cold!

Statement Coat – This is probably my most favorite key items!!  If you're looking for a way to show others that you are a BOSS, do it with a bold statement coat.  Bold doesn't necessarily mean color, but also in structure, cut, and style.  Take a look at my recent blog post on Statement Coats and peruse some of my favorites from the Fall 2015 collection.

Statement Dress – The one-piece statement dress is what you go to when you want to exude sophistication and confidence.  This dress can be worn to work, business meetings, or even special occasions.  What immediately comes to mind are dresses from Victoria Beckham's line – love it!!

LBD – Little Black Dresses, or LBDs, are a woman's tool to transform into a sexy, fun look while showing some legs and a bit of skin.  LBD's don't have to be flashy though – in fact, a lot of them are understated which is a good thing.  Either way around, you literally have dozens and dozes of options when selecting a dress that's right for you.  TIP: In recent years, I've had some real winners from White House Black Market.

Evening Gown – For those more formal occasions (a la Black Tie events), you need to have lovely evening gown in your closet arsenal.  Like the LBDs, there are so many varieties to choose from as well as colors and fabrics!  You can get some nice Ready-To-Wear gowns from places like Nordstrom Rack – I've gotten a few lovely numbers from Nordies over the years!

Black Leather Pumps – This is a Holy Grail shoe, for real.  You can rock your black pumps with your jeans, dressy pants, pencil skirt, the list goes on and on…see how well it vibes with your other core pieces? 😉  And if you take good care of your shoes by getting them resoled and reheeled every so often, you will get many years out of them.  Invest in a good pair of leather pumps and you will never regret it.

Ballet Flats – OMG, I've probably worn these most of any other shoe these past few months! Ballet flats are so comfortable and easy to get in & out of.  When you're running errands around town but still want to look cute, these shoes are the way to go.

Accessories – Okay, so you've got my top recommendations for key wardrobe pieces, now what?  You can style them up with fun accessories such as scarves, handbags, sunglasses, statement necklaces and rings, hats, gloves, and belts.  You can really let your personality and style shine through these types of accessories so have fun with it!

Here's a quick collage highlighting examples of each core piece I've covered in this post…

Back+to+Basics Back to Basics – Key Wardrobe Pieces

So that wraps up my Top Picks for your Back to Basics Wardrobe.  Ready to go shopping? Is there anything on your personal must-have list that I haven't mentioned?  If so, definitely share with us by commenting below!

Stylishly Yours,

Roxanne Carne

Roxanne Carne is a recognized Personal Stylist & Personal Shopper styling women in Dallas, TX and virtually!  Visit to discover how she can help you define your style!

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Fall Back with the Time Change? Not This Year! Here’s My Favorite Fall Fashion Forward Item…

Welcome to my inaugural post on the ‘StyleRox' blog!  I'm so excited to get this started and share my thoughts and musings about fashion and style with you!  What better way to kick things off than by highlighting my absolute favorite Fall Fashion Forward item (alliteration, much??)!  Fall COATS – sure, this year's stylish fall coats actually hit the runway earlier this year, but they're in stores now ready for our consumption!

Even though I was born and raised in good ‘ole NYC (and born in November), I am not a fan of cool or cold weather AT ALL!  The only enjoyment I get out of the cooler months dressing up in beautiful, textured layers before venturing out.  Nothing tops it off your fall look like a statement coat – for me, it's actually ALL about the statement coat!  You can snazz up your look with a cute pea coat, leather moto, or a long, luxurious duster-style coat to keep your legs nice and toasty.

I'm going through a bit of withdrawal right now because of my fall coats are still back East. And I'm wondering which ones I'll be able to wear here in sunny L.A. in the cooler season.  Even in the milder months in L.A., it can still get pretty warm during the day so this year I'll have to experiment since I'll be transitioning into the fall season for the very first time here.  Once I get my hands back on my collection in a few weeks, I'll share some pics with you – I promise!  In the meantime, to cure my fall coat fix, I want to share some of my favorite looks from the Fall 2015 Ready to Wear Season.  This fall, the theme seems to be a mix of traditional, yet edgy coats as well as a slew of stylish capes and cloaks!  Enjoy the fall coat eye candy and please share your favorite fall clothing item too!

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